Moving Forward with Wisdom, Boundaries, and Healing
In life, there are moments when we must face the reality of our circumstances and accept things for what they are. This past season has been one of profound revelation and maturity. Many of us have come to see the true nature of those around us, particularly those who pretended to be kind but were, in reality, “wolves in sheep’s clothing.”
The idiom “wolves in sheep’s clothing” perfectly illustrates the concept of people hiding their true intentions behind a facade of kindness. Matthew 7:15 warns us, "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves." These words remind us to be vigilant and discerning about the company we keep.
A Divine Pivot
The Lord has revealed that we have completed a pivotal transition. As we move into this new season, we must shed the old and embrace the new. Matthew 10:16 offers further guidance: "Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves." This wisdom is crucial as we navigate our path forward, making smarter choices based on our past experiences.
Accepting things for what they are requires wisdom. It's time to reflect on past mistakes, learn from them, and correct unhealthy patterns. Often, we hear advice to cut off those who do not mean us well. But what if these relationships are ones we cannot easily sever? Maintaining boundaries becomes essential.
Maintaining Boundaries
- Monitor Your Interactions: Be cautious about what you share with people who may not have your best interests at heart. Just as you monitor your words, be aware that they might be observing you. Keep your private matters private, and adopt a demeanor of aloofness when necessary. An aloof person is not overly warm and friendly but instead remains distant and reserved.
- Say No Without Explanation: One of the most powerful tools in maintaining boundaries is the ability to say no without feeling the need to explain yourself. This is a firm declaration of your boundaries. Just as others expect you to respect their boundaries, you have every right to enforce your own.
Pivoting into the New
As we step into this new season, it’s time to accept people, places, and things for what they are. Do you pet a snake like you pet a puppy? God wants us to see the true nature of our surroundings and act accordingly. Acceptance doesn’t mean passivity; it means recognizing reality and making informed decisions based on that understanding.
Deep Soul Healing and Creating Safe Spaces
In addition to setting boundaries, deep soul healing is essential. This involves creating a safe space for yourself—one that is confidential, supportive, honest, inclusive, and nonjudgmental. Knowing when and who to share with is crucial for maintaining your peace and well-being.
- Stop Oversharing: Avoid sharing too much information with people who haven't earned your trust. Oversharing can lead to regret and feelings of vulnerability. Remember, the words you speak become the house you live in.
- Evaluate Trustworthiness: Discernment is key. Not everyone you encounter will align with your spirit or have your best interests at heart. The person you express yourself to is not responsible for your truth. Knowing who they truly are helps you make better decisions about what to share.
- Build Resilience: Understand that people can only offer what they have within themselves. Learning this can help you build resilience and move beyond victimhood.
Staying in God and Practicing Self-Care
Staying grounded in God and practicing self-care are vital for maintaining your spiritual and emotional health. Remember, it’s not just what you say, but who you say it to that matters. Not all spirits align with yours, and sharing too much with the wrong people can lead to regret and uncertainty.
A safe space requires someone who listens to understand, not just to respond. They should be able to see your blind spots and offer constructive feedback. Accepting their truth is part of the process of growth and healing.
Moving Forward with Confidence
Embrace the lessons of the past season and step into your new season with confidence and clarity. Let wisdom be your guide, and may you find strength in knowing that you are moving forward in alignment with God's plan for your life. Accept the things you cannot change, and focus on what you can—your response, your boundaries, and your growth.