Overcoming Trauma: Biblical Insights on Healing and Restoration
IT IS OK, NOT TO BE OK!
Life is full of seasons. Ecclesiastes 3:1-11 reminds us that "there is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens." This passage gives us permission to grieve and assures us that mourning is a natural part of life. As Christians, we know that experiencing loss is inevitable, and it’s okay to grieve.
Understanding Trauma
Grief often stems from sudden, unexpected changes. Trauma can leave us feeling lost and confused, and it's one of the greatest injustices that many are never taught how to deal with. Trauma is defined as an emotional response to a terrible event, and it can evolve into grief—a deep sorrow and source of great sadness. Romans 12:2 (ESV) encourages us to transform by renewing our minds. Our brains remember trauma, and this can make it difficult to see any positives in life.
Dealing with Trauma and Grief
When faced with trauma, it's crucial to remember that there are no "bad" feelings. You must allow yourself to experience and process the hurt, rather than numbing yourself to it. Suppressing emotions not only prevents you from feeling pain but also blocks the possibility of feeling joy. Grief is evidence of the significance of our loss.
During this time, it's okay to not be okay. Give yourself permission to feel a range of emotions—anger, sadness, fear, and even gladness. Healing doesn't follow a strict timeline, but it often starts to take shape after 18 to 24 months. During this period, self-care is vital. Be deliberate in drinking water, eating well, resting, and exercising. Self care is vital in your healing process.
Healing Is a Process 
We all live our current lives with past trauma influencing our decisions. Acknowledging this is the first step toward healing. If you've been in a bad car accident, trauma might keep you from wanting to drive again. Losing a loved one forces you to confront their absence daily, which is its own form of trauma. Society often expects us to "suck it up" and move on, but healing requires intentional time and effort.
Healing from trauma starts from within. Wearing a mask to hide your pain doesn't help; unhealed trauma will continue to affect you until you address it. Each person's healing process looks different, and that's okay. The key is being willing to heal and accepting help from others. Above all, turn to God for guidance.
Biblical Examples of Healing
The Bible provides many examples of people who experienced trauma and found healing through God. One such story is that of Naomi, found in the book of Ruth. Naomi faced significant loss when her husband and sons died, leaving her in a foreign land with her daughters-in-law. Despite her grief, Naomi turned to God, who provided for her through her daughter-in-law Ruth’s loyalty and kindness.
Isaiah 41:10 (ESV) reassures us, "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Just as God was with Naomi, He is with us in our grief, ready to strengthen and uphold us.
Healing from loss is a journey, and it's one that God wants to walk with us. By allowing ourselves to grieve, taking intentional steps toward healing, and seeking God's guidance, we can find peace and restoration. Remember, it's okay to feel, it's okay to hurt, and it's okay to heal. Trust in God's timing and His plan for your life, knowing that He makes everything beautiful in its time.